Tag: Queer
Pain
People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. People are taught that pain is evil and dangerous. How can they deal with love if they’re afraid to feel? Pain is meant to wake us … More Pain
5 Tips For A Succesful Gay Relationship
Gay relationships just like any other relationships require effort and energy to make them work. I have over the years learned a few things that can help keep a relationship and make it enjoyable. These I have learned from personal experience and from observing friends who are in committed relationships. 1. Communicate The importance of … More 5 Tips For A Succesful Gay Relationship
I cannot lose you again
You are fading away, And I don’t know why, You cannot go away, Ahead lays a long way, I cannot lose you again. I planted a bad seed, My mind I cannot feed It has to go like a weed Lest to death I bleed I cannot lose you again. You were hard to find, … More I cannot lose you again
My Kenyan gay love story
Everyone has a love story. From our parents, to our friends, to the teenage boys and girls in school. I do have my love stories but that is a story for another day. This post has been inspired by the love stories that I am now witnessing thanks to greater freedom and acceptance in the … More My Kenyan gay love story
To talk about it or not
The other day, I was having drinks with two friends, Stan and Jay and as usual, we talked about lots of things. The range of topics varied from politics, careers, relationships to sexuality. Jay is queer and in a committed relationship. As for Stan, I will not even go there. He is not so sure about … More To talk about it or not
Wanderings of meeting people
Call me naive. I didn’t start exploring my sexuality until I was a bit older. By older I mean after I turned 18. You must be wondering where I was all my teenage life. Its interesting how young people these days have done it all by the time they are 16. You will note that … More Wanderings of meeting people
A trip down memory lane; part II (Story of Peter)
Peter and I met on our first day in high school. We were both innocent and came from different places, I coming from near the capital and him from Western Kenya. The choice of our first meeting venue was not of my own making but incidentally, it was in the boys changing rooms, as we … More A trip down memory lane; part II (Story of Peter)
Binyavanga: Disturbing the Peace (Part II)
This is the second and final part of my Binyavanga: Disturbing the Peace opinion. You can read the part one here. Again, this is just my opinion on Binyavanga’s coming out and the preceding events. In this last post, I want to comment on the documentary ‘We Must Free Our Imaginations’ which you should all have seen. … More Binyavanga: Disturbing the Peace (Part II)
Binyavanga: Disturbing the Peace (Part I)
This is not news anymore. Binyavanga Wainaina came out in the most literary article I have ever come across in my life here. That was on January 19, 2014, that is why it is no longer news. His coming out coincided with his 43rd birthday and according to him, in a television interview (#theTrend), that … More Binyavanga: Disturbing the Peace (Part I)